Renewed Support for the Grieving

Forgiveness - Healing

Scott Devereaux
TheACY Ambassador
Certified Grief Support Facilitator

Scotty Devereaux joined The Arnold C. Yoder Survivors Foundation in September 2009 due to a deadly situation that he was involved in three years prior. Accidentally causing the death of a young Brazilian woman while involved in a work-related critical incident, he became very personally and acutely aware of how lives can be forever changed by sudden tragedy and also how such loss can be transmuted into a powerful source of healing, transformation and expansion. As the Foundation provides a loving, safe environment in which grieving survivors on *both* sides of tragic events can discover and express their own Grief-Forgiveness-Healing process, Scotty has taken advantage of his unique journey of healing, which includes significant and ongoing forgiveness-healing from the victim's family. He is now a Volunteer Ambassador and Grief Support Facilitator offering his skills, compassion and training for the support and empowerment of those who have had someone close die.


There's usually at least two or more sides to every survivors story: one side is the cause and the other is at the effect. B
oth sides are impacted tremendously by blame, guilt, anger, regret, denial and sometimes fail to see the other side of what the other may or may not be experiencing.

Every second of every day, someone is suffering a loss or death through some unfortunate circumstance; an auto accident, a crime, work related, professional athletes, and even children at play. Some times there is the loss of health, limbs and mobility, sometimes it is the loss of life.  For most of us this occurs as little more than the lead story on our nightly news or a footnote in the morning paper.

When the cameras and reporters have gone and the topic around the water cooler has changed; what becomes of the survivors of yesterdays news? It is doubtful that they have moved on with us. They, the survivors are more often mired in an avalanche of loss, regret, pain, denial and hate. For survivors, that need to laugh again, feel alive and welcome a new day, there is more often than not, an intense soul exploring journey that must be taken to heal and become whole again. Healing this takes place through forgiveness. Bringing joy where there was sadness, togetherness where there was isolation, and forgiveness where there was hate.  

Through forgiving oneself or others, the psychologically, debilitating restraints such as bitterness, resentment, anger, guilt and shame can be released forever. An empowering freedom is now present, with which to achieve life goals more effectively, with velocity and a new found joy, ease and enthusiasm for life.